|Do you dream of looking like this?|
Did I miss something?
It feels like I woke up one day, and the world pulled the rug out from under me.
When did sickly, skeletal waifs become the latest trend? What do we call this look? Emaciated Chic?
In a society so consumed with "healthy" options...when did the disgustingly bony figure become the new "it" thing? Sure, I get it, us fat people are gross. You know what else is gross? Being able to play the xylophone on your rib cage.
We ostracize, degrade and mock anyone with an extra pound or two on their body. Please folks, this has GOT to stop. Some people don't know where to end this battle. I see diet ads and commercials at every turn. I see little girls throwing up their dinner, or skipping meals all together. For what? An impossible ideal of perfection? When is enough, enough? Where does the cycle of "gotta lose weight, have to look perfect" stop?
In case you have been living in a fucking cave, let me break it down for you.
You cannot physically have zero percent body fat, and size D boobs. Nature doesn't work that way.
Being malnourished is just as dangerous as being obese.
I was teased in elementary school and junior high about being fat, simply because I hit puberty sooner than most of the girls in my class, and therefore had boobs and hips before age 12. I still hear the kids on the bus making fun of me sometimes. I don't care how much you tell someone to get over it, that shit sticks with you.
Oh, and newsflash: There is no such thing as perfect! It doesn't exist.
As much as the media, the assholes and the critics would like you to believe...there is absolutely positively nothing you can do to make every single person think you are perfect.
For those of you (myself included) who find this to be a constant daily struggle...I want you to read the next few lines very carefully. Say them out loud. Tell yourself "I will never be perfect"...you may think this sounds crazy and counter intuitive, but hear me out:
You will never be skinny enough-and if you get there, you will probably wind up dying.
Your boobs will never be big enough- and if you get them big enough, they will make fun of them for being saggy
Your face will never be pretty enough- someone will always find a flaw and exaggerate it.
You will never....EVER....be perfect. Do we understand each other?
Now, why did I go and make you feel bad about yourself? I didn't. I am merely pointing out the reality of the situation. If I can make you realize that what you are trying to achieve is physically, cosmically and universally 100% not possible...then you are free to stop trying. You. Are. Free.
Free to be the person that makes YOU happy. Screw everyone else.
Free to love the way you look, with all your imperfections.
Free to say "I will never look like that. I am going to do what is best and healthiest for ME...and fuck whatever anyone else thinks." Stop trying to achieve the unachievable. It's simply a never-ending cycle of hate.
You are who you are. You cannot change that. You can moderately change your looks, but inside you're still the same person.
Still don't believe that this is a problem? The following photos were found by Google searching for "Plus Size Models". Do any of these girls look like what you would consider "plus size?"
|The cover of Crystal Renn's book Hungry, which I|
will be reading soon. Very excited and review to follow.
I beg, I plead....stop ridiculing people for being "fat". Especially when they are not.
And for those of you struggling with weight, I beg of you: Just love yourself already!